The safe word is "foliage"

It's the sunflower seeds that keeps this family together.  Bickering nearly caused a divorce in our small group.  It could've been the beer can that someone took to the face, who knows?  But we all kept dipping our grimy hands into that bucket to eat those seeds and it really kept us tight.  Well, it kept us in the same vicinity.  

If a divorce does happen, Julie's coming to live with me.